Journaling is a foundational practice for developing self-awareness. There are so many ideas on journaling but the most important part is the reflection. Journaling is about taking apart an event, evaluating and judging your behavior, then deciding how you want to show up the next time. Processing our thoughts through journaling, rather than pondering or […]
Why You Need a Post-Argument Review with Your Partner
If you and your partner are getting into the same arguments over and over, you may not be correcting the communication habits that lead to the problem. Part of my and my husband’s problem was our bad communication. We came to our relationship with bad communication habits and had little experience with healthy boundaries. Identifying […]
7 Small Changes that Made My Marriage Better
Long term relationships are so rewarding but they take intentional work. Intentional work in my relationship looks like self-exploration and awareness. We’re two individuals who want to support happiness, peacefulness, and stability in each other. Doing so requires being open to what each of those things looks like to the other person. Over time, my […]
What Self-Worth is and How to Build Yours
How do we uncover our self-worth? Is it assigned by others, ourselves, or combination of the two? What does it mean to feel worthy? And how do we know if our self-worth has been impacted by our interactions or relationships? Self-worth, simply put, is how you value your own personhood. In the face of any […]
How to Figure Out What Healthy Boundaries Mean for You
Healthy boundaries allow us to find the right people to participate in our care communities. But what does the relationship building process look like and how do we coordinate our relationship building process with others? In other words, how do we figure out and communicate our own healthy boundaries and build strong care communities? One […]
How to Manage Emotional Vulnerability
Emotional vulnerability is one of the greatest ways to connect with others, it’s an indiscriminate force. We’re all deeply impacted by vulnerability whether it’s in sharing our own or accessing the vulnerability in others. Fundamentally, it’s how we show our humanness and how we see humanness in others. This can trigger people in a bad […]
How to Become Aware of Your Emotional Framework
Understanding our emotional framework allows us to build a healthy self awareness and get our needs met in effective and productive ways. We can build healthier, more sustainable relationships by looking at our emotional framework and understanding how we operate in terms of balancing our needs with the needs of others. Every relationship depends on […]
How to Express Our Feelings without Holding Back
Oftentimes when we want to express our feelings, we worry about how they’ll be received. Being in a relationship means concerning yourself with others feelings. If we’re over concerned, or over empathizing, we end up suppressing our own feelings or needs in unhealthy ways. Balancing our feelings, needs, capacity with what someone else needs is […]
How to Love Yourself and Be Confident
Love yourself and be confident by first opening up about your feelings and needs. When you’ve existed in a cycle of shame around having feelings, seeing yourself as burdensome for having needs, or consistently feeling invalidated, you may suppress feelings that would otherwise direct you to your authentic needs. Confidence can exist authentically, meaning it […]
How to Enforce Healthy Boundaries
How to enforce healthy boundaries starts first by knowing how boundaries serve us. Imagine a glass jar and every experience is a penny. Are the pennies bright and shiny copper? Or are they covered in dirt and grime like pennies you’d rather not keep? Every day, every moment, is a penny in your jar. When […]